A Proposal and Working Together as a Couple
Chris and I were able to witness and capture his friend’s proposal last week! It’s so honoring to be asked to be a part of something so intimate and memorable! Glad we were there to capture it!
I used our Fujifilm X100 and Chris used our Canon 60D. See if you can tell who’s who!
It’s really interesting to work together as a couple. We did it when we were dating, engaged and now married. It started out really frustrating for both of us. I thought it sounded fun and cute and Chris saw it as a job. When we were working together, we weren’t necessarily a couple in his mind, we were working. To me, it was a growing opportunity and kind of like a date! Can you see how that could get frustrating on both ends? I was too emotionally attached, and when he didn’t kiss me or hold my hand during our work, I’d get offended. We figured out that, since it was mostly me helping him out with his work, that I needed a way to see it as work too. Maybe that meant he took me out to dinner as “payment” for my help or he gave me some money from the shoot. I had to understand that this was a job and since Chris gets in his job mode, I need to do that too. He also gave in a little and tried not to forget to kiss my cheek every once in a while to remind me that we were doing this as a couple, not just a team. It’s gotten a lot easier and more fun because of this! Some couples, I’m sure, naturally work really well together. We had to learn each other’s needs and how we worked differently. Most importantly, we had to communicate these things with each other. Whether you work together as a couple or not, that’s one of the most important things in a relationship and can solve almost any issue you have.
I can totally relate, being that I’m the only one who assists Jay on his photo shoots. After 20 yrs of being together we’ve finally managed to figure it out.
We woman are too emotional. We see every opportunity to be with our guy as a “date.” A time to bond and grow as a couple. I used to get so annoyed with Jay when he put his work face on. I would also feel hurt when he was all business. I can now sit here a laugh and I type this because I’ve been there, done that. Now there’s a natural rhythm when we work together. I can sense when he wants to switch lenses, or change the position of the lighting, etc…., and he’s also learned to respect my opinions. There have been plenty of times when he’s taken my advice on where to take a picture or how to position the subject, etc….. It’s give and take. And I’ve learned that when we’re doing a photo shoot that it’s “work” not a date and we make the time to go out and spend quality time together. And now that the kids are teenagers, it makes it that much easier for us to go out on “dates” again!!
It’s sweet that you work together. Enjoy it and learn from it. And even though it’s not a date, you can still savor the time that you have together, whether it’s work or play.
Thanks for the input, Sylvia! It’s so funny how you have a similar story!
Wow, Julia! Can’t tell the difference in the film
, but your insights into working together are “spot-on” 
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Great advice for ANYONE!